When viola Davies gave her oscar winning speech after three failed nominations she said, "the richest place on earth is the graveyard and we as creatives have the chance to exhume those dreams by telling those stories " As true as that might be, as beautiful as that might sound I think she missed a point... Some dreams deserve to die...just hear me out. ( P.S viola davies is the star of the TV series How to get away with murder)
I am talking about your rapper boyfriend who has released one audio, has the word 'rap' and gang signs in his bio. The one who doesn't hesitate to state that he is a rapper when introducing himself. The same one who smokes all day and listens to hiphop. Don't get me wrong, dressing like a rapper, looking like a rapper sounding like a rapper without actually rapping doesn't make you a rapper. Feel free to attack me with the dress for success line but if you don't put in the work, connect with the relevant people, network, then please let that dream go. It has a right to die
Yes, I am talking about that youtuber friend of yours who releases a video when she feels like it, who is on tik tok waiting to blow up like Azziad, who is on instagram waiting to be a kim kardashian and get paid for posting since, you know, she is blessed on the rear view. The thing about opportunities or kuomoka is that it meets you halfway. You don't sit and wait for it, you work towards it.
I am also talking about that project you have invested in, put in your all financially, emotionally, mentally and its just not working out. You have been at it for months and months. You have even prayed about it, this is new since at some point you had become an atheist. If you have a weak endgame or no endgame at all, just stop, breath, unclench your jaw and re-evaluate. The beauty of dreaming though, is that you can always start again don't let it kill you.
I am also talking about that relationship. You have come too far to let it go. The public cannot afford to know, heck you have a youtube channel together that's your grind and cutting this relationship off would be messing with your grind. You need to keep up appearances you need to save face. Honey ,let it go...trust me you won't die, you think you would but you will not, take Maureen Waititu and Frankie just gym it for instance . There is life on the other side, just know when to press the off button.
I am talking about that journalism course that you took and lately you have realised you will not be on television. Lately you have realised all these media houses are business enterprises and if business is bad you are out. Have the courage to accept it and find a survival tactic. You can choose to start over or keep going just make sure you are on the right track. I say this because sometimes we spend lifetimes chasing pavements and building sandcastles in the air and we realise it when it's too late. Don't be that person, you have a chance to shift right now and you can.
Someone told me to name this article 'due date' instead of 'the right to die' since, you know, death carries more weight. His argument was, dreams don't die they fade away, slowly, and before you realise it they are gone and someone else is living them. It hurts even more then. So you choose.
This article is inspired by Likarion Wainaina's story. He is the 2018 supa modo film director who had been depressed for months, came home to a locked house and slept on the verandah, after giving a motivational speech as a succesful film director (P.S the film went international and is rated 90% by rotten tomatoes).
It's okay to let go, the hard thing is realising when to walk away, when to 'give up', when to stop dreaming and wake up,when to start again.The not okay thing is to live a lie which later graduates to regrets.