Designated Ugly Fat Friend, you either have one, know one, or have been one, no in betweens. When we come down to colour they tend to be the darkest, if we are talking body size they tend to be the ones with the most weight, if we are talking brains they tend to be retarded. The odd one out, the candle holder, the stepping stone, the less popular one, the more accessible one. Boys would call her the cockblocker.
Mostly found in groupies, girl groupies. They are either full of attitude or a fly on the wall. Too loud or too quiet, they have mastered the technique of extremism yet they get used all the time. They run errands for popular girls, they do things that would be considered embarrasing if the group diva did it. They do the dirty job all in the name of 'friendship' or the one they like most 'a sense of belonging'.
These people have the keys to the city. You gotta impress them to get a through pass to the actual prize. Duffs are not necessarily ugly or fat they could actually be the less everything in the group. Still gorgeuos but again the least important to look at as kim kardashian would say to kourtney kardashian. The stairs to the chopper, the doormat to the house, the ladder to the rooftop.
The problem with getting ignored or used all the time is one develops a desire to be in user's position or outdo the user just to prove a point. These people grow to be the biggest manipulators of all time. They are in no hurry, they study every step you make, master your every move and when they come for your place all I can say is run!!! Think of the lucifer story.
My lecturer once said ,
"Those silent, not so important characters in a study group are the ones to watch out for"
and I see it all too clearly now.
Nice girl syndrome, is the title to my current read and I tend to think all duffs suffer from this. They are too nice (this is a weakness by the way), people pleasers, empaths, the I come last kind of girls. Yes some derive satisfaction from it till they cannot anymore, till the narrative changes, till they get an awakening and they decide to come back for everything they took the backseat for. Hell breaks loose.
What happens to those girls who never make it here? Those girls who never break loose? Those girls who are duffs their whole lives? Those girls who shrink so that the next girl would shine? Others find it noble you know, they even call it humility. Something about this doesn't sit right with me.There is no nobility in shrinkage, neither is their humility in being a mere shadow.
Speaking from a reformed duff's point of view, I would say the grass is greener here, the water is clearer here and yes we get to be seen and we get to be heard. I urge such girls to get out more, do more , be more, drop the duff mentality . Elevate from being a fly on the wall to a butterfly in the fields.